In response to Sabrina's Post

Sabrina talks about the blog post entitled “Does Being Successful Scare Men Away?” by Lara Busch. This blog was about how men feel intimidated by women who are successful and are well educated.

Although I agree with some things Sabrina is saying about the blog post, I do disagree with most of her arguments. I agree with Busch that men are afraid to be romantically involved with a woman that is smarter or gets paid more than he does. Men want to always feel like they’re more important than everyone else and that they have to be the one supporting the family, not the female in the relationship. It’s a pride thing with men.

When a woman is making more money than the man is, he feels as if the women should depend on him. A man almost loses his dignity when he is the parent that has to stay home with the kid because the wife is out working and making more money than he could bring in.

Sabrina uses the quote “Men still want to feel like they are needed and have the power and control that comes with being the main income earner.” She says she feels that this statement makes men seem aggressive and abusive. Though I agree with her that saying a woman does not need a man for money, I agree with the statement when it says men want to feel powerful and in control of the money coming in. A woman does not need to rely on a man or his money to be successful; she can be successful without a man.

Sabrina brings up a good point that gender roles have changed a tremendous amount in the last few decades. More women are attending college than men today, and women are almost at equal numbers to the amount of men in the work force. They are also finally letting women fight in combat in wars. This is a huge step for our generation because women have never been able to fight in a war, now women can prove that they are just as strong and capable of protecting their country as a man is.

There is still a lot of discrimination and sexism in the U.S. but women are striving for equality in today’s society. One of these major problems is the difference in a man’s pay check to a woman’s paycheck for the same work done. I women makes 75 cents to every dollar a man makes. Isn’t that ridiculous? Even if she has a better college degree than a man does, she still gets paid less than he does.

When a woman starts making more than a man, he feels threatened because “men are better than women.” A man never wants to feel inferior to a woman so that’s why all of the presidents, all of which were MALES, avoided passing the bill to make women have equal pay for the same work as a man.

I feel that if a man likes a woman but she makes more money than him, he will feel threatened and will not want to date her for that reason. If two people are already in a relationship, I feel like the man will try to compete with the woman so he is always in power. Men instinctively strive for dominance and power, so having a girl interrupt that power is like a slap in the face to them.

Sabrina says “In today’s society, divorce seems to be extremely common and the notion of being with only one person for the entirety of one’s life is seemingly going out of fashion. It makes more sense to blame the fact that there are less couples on the ways in which our society functions.”

I completely agree with this statement. The divorce rate in the U.S. is at about 50%! That is crazy because half of all marriages are ending in divorce. This makes it so much harder to find true love that people will actually want to make last a lifetime. If a man is worried more about how much more successful his wife is than him, he needs to reevaluate and be happy for her and make their relationship work.